My Husband Has A Low Sex Drive

by Barbara
(Brighton, MA)

My sexual health problem: I'm a married woman with 3 children. My husband is a very good person and father but has never had much interest in sex.

I've always been the one who has to put an initiative into that, and lately our sex life became not existence. We talked to a doctor who said that nothing is wrong with my husband; he just simply has low sex drive. I'm sick and tired of pretending to be satisfied.

Is it the reason to leave him despite the fact my children adore him and otherwise our relationship is good? Should I consider myself numb or dead? Recently I started to look into relationships for married people and was shocked at how many people have problem with marital sex and can't just leave.

It's amazing how many people want a spark back to their life. Are all of them liars or we're trying to please spouses, children, live under obligations and pretend to be happy and satisfied? Does anyone have any thoughts or advice on this

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My Husband Has A Low Sex Drive

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Sweet gay guy who wanted a family or low libido?
by: Anonymous

I definitely have the best husband and most loving father for our children that I could ever hope for, but our marriage is sexless.

It was great dating him for the 8 months we dated he was amazing in bed. He never wanted to go down on me and only went down on me once when he had been drinking and I asked him too. He was caught soliciting gay men on the internet years ago and so I just assumed he was bi-sexual and lost interest in women.

It has been years since that incident and he seem to have given that practice up. So I don't know if it's low libido or that he finds men more attractive. I love him with all my heart but when the kids are raised I don't know if we will last.

He allows himself to be dragged into counseling but he doesn't seem to want to change. It will be so hard to give up such a wonderful friend and I know I will never find this type of guy again. I know he loves me.

I just don't know how long I can go without sex. I was a virgin when I married him. So it's probably been easier for me than for other women. But it is still a bit of a downer.
Low Sex Drives Do Exist!
by: Lynn

Unless you are a doctor, you don't know that low sex drive's don't exist. My husband is the same way, he said ever since he was a teen, he has never had much of a sex drive. Of course I didn't know this until after we started dating (and had already been in love since we were best friends for years before that).

I love my husband to death, but sometimes wonder if the lack of sex is going to kill our relationship. I want him to see a doctor to see what's wrong with him. Because I used to be very sexual, and don't have much of a drive myself these days, I'm tired of being the one to make a move.

I wish I could tell you what to do, but I'm in the same rut you are in.

I'm going to take my husband to the porn shop tomorrow and see if there's any toys that we can play with together.

but... Ii am a phone sex operator and talk to many guys who don't want to have sex with their wives because they are secretively gay or want to be a woman and dominated.... my husband hears these calls and says he's not like that, that he just has a low drive. but if you get the sense that he's doing one of those things, keep that in mind.
Don't give up
by: Anonymous

The newness is going to wear off no matter who it is. But I wouldn't give up your whole relationship, if the sex is the only thing that is the problem. And usually guys might have a low sex drive when they are in a rut, maybe he is not as attracted to you anymore.

Maybe you should both go to the gym or watch porn together, do whatever it takes. No one has low sex drive, they just get not interested anymore. Which causes the low sex drive.

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